Divorce: Questions to ask

Before you get a divorce, it's a good idea to consider a few questions. Not asking yourself these questions could end up hurting you as well as leading you to making mistakes. By asking these questions, you can be sure you are moving in the right direction for your life.

To start with, you should ask yourself if you've really sat down and explained your concerns with your spouse. Your partner may not realize how seriously you've been considering a divorce and could be willing to work with you to avoid one. With research indicating that only around 35 percent of what is said to someone is really heard, it's very important to make sure you spend time explaining your feelings in a calm way. Be clear, so you both understand what's happening.

You should also ask if you or your spouse really understand what the other person expects. Maybe your spouse expects you to act a certain way as a husband or wife, but you don't do those things. Understanding the preconceptions each person has can help you eliminate any barriers in communication.

Finally, ask yourself and your spouse what the way to save the marriage would be. Would you need to take more time away from the job? Would you need to spend a day or two together during the week or go to bed at the same time? Simple changes could make a difference.

If a divorce is the right choice for you, your attorney can help you resolve disputes. With support, you can get through a difficult time with less trouble.

Source: The New York Times, "11 Questions to Ask Before Getting a Divorce," Eric V. Copage, accessed June 06, 2018

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